Life

Let's face it. Life can be really hard at times. For some reason or another we all have a difficult time in our life. Irregardless of how or why it happens, how you react and handle it will determine how you get through it. Obviously that's easier said than done. How do you help someone going through a hard time? Well it certainly is a lot easier if you have been through the same thing or at least something similiar. Family and friends can be your biggest support group. They can be there just to lend a listening ear or a voice of encouragment. Now let me be your voice of encouragment. Whatever it is you are going through you can make it through. I'm not saying it will be easy or that you will make it through unscathed. It may be the hardest thing you have ever faced and it will probably take some time. Time for some reason helps heal our wounds. Time really helped me when I went through my divorce from my first wife. Christmas eve my ex left. Things hadn't been good for some time and she called it quits. Talk about hurt. I was devastated. I shut down completley. I already suffer from depression and that just made things worse. I don't think I left the house, let alone my room for about a week. It took time. Lots of time before I got over things. Was it hard? Yes. Was it worth it? Looking back and seeing where I am now honestly, yes it was worth it. My life now is really great. I got remarried to a wonderful person. In my case the grass was greener on the other side. Besides time another thing that helped me was staying busy. I was going to school to be a Harley technician at the time of my divorce. After the split I had some serious reflection to do. I was contemplating quitting school, moving back home and just plain giving up on everthing. My schooling was suffering because I was so wrecked emotionally. I loved mechanic work and enjoyed school. I couldn't just give up even though it seemed the easy way out. So once I made the decision to stay in school and do what I loved that helped keep me busy and kept my mind occupied on other things so I wasn't drawn into the woe is me thinking. My job as a contractor ran out of work so I got a full time job that kept me busy after school. That in turn helped me make new friends which helped me get over the divorce too. It was probably the hardest thing emotionally I have ever been through. But you know what? I made it through. I am a better person from it and now I can in turn help friends who are going through the same thing.